In this episode of Shades of Intimacy, Jason and Jennie talk about a little bit of grammar that is very important: is it wolves or wolfes? Animals seem to be a topic because they also talk about Jonah in the whale (or is it beast, fish, Tuna?). Anyways, stay tuned for an exciting announcement from Jennie on this one!
You Might also like
In this episode of Shades of Intimacy, Jennie is joined by her friend Melanie Lake to discuss the effects of being overwhelmed. With so much going on for Jennie over the past month, she was breaking down trying to get everything ready for her upcoming workshop. Knowing when to step back and let your friend, partner or child work through their feelings, and holding space for them to do so takes practice. In a “Let me fix that for you” society, we need to keep our hands to ourselves and be supportive without shutting them down. Sometimes a girl needs a foot rub and someone to do her laundry with.
Domesticate Your Wife
By Jennie Smith
I love it when my partner claims me. In fact, it is essential to my relationship. **OK COMMENCE TRIGGER**
The word “claim” particularly in reference to intimate relationship results in a number of unpleasant images, assumptions, and connotations. So, let me tease this apart quickly. The “claim” I am referencing is an UNDOUBTABLE energetic, emotional, and physical DECLARATION of LOVE, DESIRE, and HONOR. The “claim” connotation that has trigged me and many women who I have worked with is . . .
Claim = Domestication
As humans, we have claimed animals from the wild and bred them into domestication: cows, horses, dogs, cats. We have claimed land and done our best to domesticate: landscaping, building, tearing up native plants, laying sod, pouring cement, grooming and keeping the wildness at bay.
Can we be domesticated? Absolutely. We become energetically domesticated when WE CHOOSE to barter comfort for our wildness. When WE CHOOSE to become numb instead of alive. When WE CHOOSE to whittle away our life force energy to conveniently fit in the small little box we start to call our lives. THAT is DOMESTICATION not CLAIMING.
Notice, domestication is a state that one chooses for their own life and may or may not include the participation of another person, including an intimate partner. Claiming is also a choice and can be done for oneself and can also be a delicious ingredient an intimate relationship.
Declaration not ownership.
Love, desire, and honor not domestication, bartering, and numbness.
Have I domesticated myself at times? Yes, I have. I have played small both independently and in relationship. There have been moments where I have traded my life-giving pulse for shallow and fetid waters. The good news? You can absolutely re-wild yourself. And once you do, I have found you are much more likely to find that intimate partner by whom you are claimed.
Agree? Disagree? We want to hear your feedback! Email usPost Views: 1,161
In this episode of Shades of Intimacy, Jason and Jennie talk about what it takes to detox in the relationship. They may of talked about poop, food and sex… all in the same episode! How do we handle toxic parts of our relationships? How do we get past them and effectively “detox our relationship”?